The Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale provides a comprehensive look at where you are in your recovery from a relationship ending.
Each score gives you insights into your emotional state, helping you better understand your journey and make informed decisions for your next steps.
High Score: You have successfully separated emotionally from your ex-partner and are moving forward with your life.
Low Score: There may still be lingering emotional ties that are holding you back from complete independence.
Understanding where you fall on this scale can help you address any emotional attachments still affecting your well-being.
High Score: You’re progressing well through the stages of grief, reaching a place of acceptance.
Low Score: You may be struggling with certain phases, such as denial or depression, indicating the need for more focused support.
Grief is a natural part of loss, and this score helps you understand which parts of the process might need more attention.
High Score: You're managing anger in a healthy way, which is essential for moving forward.
Low Score: Anger may still be present, potentially hindering your healing process.
Addressing anger constructively can be key to breaking free from resentment and pain.
High Score: Your self-esteem is intact, and you’re regaining confidence in yourself as an individual.
Low Score: The breakup may have significantly affected your self-worth, suggesting a need for self-compassion and rebuilding exercises.
This score reflects your value perception of yourself independently of any relationship.
High Score: You feel confident and secure in social interactions.
Low Score: Hesitation and discomfort might still be barriers to rebuilding your social identity.
Re-engaging with others is vital for recovery, and this score helps you understand your progress.
High Score: You’re emotionally ready to start a new chapter in dating.
Low Score: There may still be unresolved issues affecting your ability to trust again.
A high level of social trust is a good indicator that you’re ready to open yourself up to new connections.
Suggestions for Personal Development
Based on your scores, here are some tailored actions to help you grow in each category.
Disentanglement
Denial, Fear and Loneliness are all precursors to the process of letting go. Focusing on these first will help you find your ability to focus.
Grief
Joining a divorce recovery group can help process these emotions. The Rebuilding program is offered both locally and online.
Anger
Learn how to release your anger in a healthy and respectful way. For many, this is learning how to feel the intense feelings in a way that releases you from the past.
This guide is meant to provide clear, actionable steps to facilitate your emotional recovery.
Connecting with others who have had similar experiences can provide invaluable support.
"Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends" is an essential guide for navigating this process.
Additional resources are available for deeper insights into your recovery journey.
The key is to find the right resources that resonate with you.
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